Questions, Principles and Exceptions in Islam. A Simple Start!

We often ask questions that are not important. Questions that are just small details or exceptions to everyday life. We begin to search and question things that do not come together as we hope so we dig for more details which lead us to confusion, doubt and at times rejection.

We all have questions and we all want answers. Sometimes the answers we get are not always what we like, but, “They are answers!” When it comes to questions about truth, one of the keys for success is in truly wanting answers and not just the answers we personally want. One of the warning signs of the personal approach to questioning is in how we ask the question. We may ask a subjective question leading towards our desires because we have already made up our mind but are seeking validation or we can take the other beneficial approach which is to ask an objective question that we might not like the answer to however we have the simple intention of just wanting a better understanding.

One of the ways to help us with the objective approach to questions in Islam is to remember a few important details for seeking knowledge. Everything we do starts with our intention to please Allah alone without partner. It is not an intention to please our personal desires. Those things we want, but do not really need. After we have checked our intention and made it all about pleasing our Creator we then move on to a reminder that everything in Islam has a base principle that leads to an exception to that principle based on circumstance.

Simply put we need to understand that every rule can be bent and some can even be broken depending on Necessity. Thank you Morpheus!

One extra point before we move on is that we need to understand how things are defined from the teachings of Submission (Islam). We all have definitions in our head that we are personally attached to, but as Muslims we make the choice to reject our personal understanding for a better understanding that was given to us by our Creator since it is He that knows and we do not.

[6:162] Say, “Indeed, my prayer, my rites of sacrifice, my living and my dying are for Allah , Lord of the worlds.

قُلْ إِنَّ صَلَاتِي وَنُسُكِي وَمَحْيَايَ وَمَمَاتِي لِلَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ

We then can get further insight by knowing the actions of the Prophet and Messenger of Allah (ﷺ).

So lets define Necessity in Islam. Necessity is not based on our own personal comparisons of needs vs wants, and it is not based on how we feel or how we rationalize how we feel. Necessity in Islam is simply defined as a situation of definite harm and even death in which we can approach those things that are forbidden to prevent such undesirable outcomes.

For example the general principle in Islam is that eating flesh of swine is Haraam (forbidden). Now what about circumstance? What if one will die without food and nothing is available except swine? Prevention of death falls within the realm of Necessity so to survive we can break the rule of eating swine to prevent starvation and it is not counted as a sin on our record on the day of Judgement. We have even been given permission to commit the greatest of sins upon our tongue which is to associate partners with Allah (Shirk). This means that if ones life is on the line and the only way out is to reject Islam or face harm and possible death then under the principle of Necessity we can reject Islam, reject the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), and even reject Allah Himself.

There is one more very important detail about Necessity that we have to mention to prevent its misuse. Everything we do starts in the heart and when a situation of Necessity arises we start by seeking forgiveness for the act we are about to commit out of “Necessity”. It is very, very, very important not to confuse Necessity with our daily wants and weakness as Muslims. Like the excuses for missing prayer, having rude speech, and our frequent overtly poor behaviour. Did I forget to mention that this is, “Very important!”

Why does this all mean? Well, when a question comes to mind we have a tendency to approach Islam by looking for the exceptions. Those details that will benefit us and conform to our way of thinking. It is an approach that we subconsciously manipulate to fit our needs, but we often fall in the trap of not understanding the foundation of the principles which makes the details strange and incomprehensible. It is this “jump to the end approach” that leads us to confusion, leads us to doubt and leads many of us to the outright rejection of submission (Islam) to our Creator.

So the next time a question comes up we need to make a clear intention to proceed in the best way possible that is pleasing to Allah. We need to make supplication (du’a) that Allah grants us knowledge of benefit and the strength to accept what comes even if we do not like it.

This is a very simple way to look at things and is only intended as a starting point on the topic. It does require way more study than a few Google searches or Facebook comments, but it is an important principle that will help us so much if we understand it.

It was narrated from Umm Salamah that when the Prophet (ﷺ) performed the Subh (morning prayer), while he said the Salam, he would say: ‘Allahumma inni as’aluka ‘ilman nafi’an, wa rizqan tayyiban, wa ‘amalan mutaqabbalan (O Allah, I ask You for beneficial knowledge, goodly provision and acceptable deeds).’”

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا شَبَابَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ مُوسَى بْنِ أَبِي عَائِشَةَ، عَنْ مَوْلًى، لأُمِّ سَلَمَةَ عَنْ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ كَانَ يَقُولُ إِذَا صَلَّى الصُّبْحَ حِينَ يُسَلِّمُ ‏ “‏ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ عِلْمًا نَافِعًا وَرِزْقًا طَيِّبًا وَعَمَلاً مُتَقَبَّلاً

Hadith Reference

Love Does Not Make a Marriage

Marriage can be a wonderful thing, but it can also be one the biggest mistakes of ones life. Success in marriage all depend on how you approach it. One good lesson is to remember that marriage is not love, love, love. Marriage is hard work, patience, hard work and patience. It also includes patience, more patience and a little patience.

Get what I am saying folks. If you are not married learn to be patient now. If your married start being patient now. No time to waste and as we know there is no time like the present. Oui?

Forgiving in Islam

Thought of the Day:

We often ask, “Why is it so Hard to forgive in Islam” but is it really that hard?

Forgiving is easy it is us that make it hard. We forget that we forgive for our sake and not theirs. We need to be selfish in our drive to forgive and we will see the benefits.

We should not complain about a soft heart and that is what forgiveness creates.

Allah forgive us and help us forgive others as we should. Ameen

Qur’an [2:37] “Then Adam received from his Lord Words . And his Lord pardoned him (accepted his repentance). Verily, He is the One Who forgives (accepts repentance), the Most Merciful.”

فَتَلَقَّىٰ آدَمُ مِن رَّبِّهِ كَلِمَاتٍ فَتَابَ عَلَيْهِ ۚ إِنَّهُ هُوَ التَّوَّابُ الرَّحِيمُ

Dawah, An Invitation to Truth

Dawah is not about praise, pats on the back or bragging about how many shahada’s one has. It is about the blessing of helping one find truth and accepting it for their sake.

O Allāh, make me better than what they think of me, and forgive me for what they do not know about me, and do not take me to account for what they say about me.

اللهمَ اجْعَلْنِى خَيْرًا مِمَّا يَظُنُّونَ وَاغْفِرْ لِى مَا لَا يَعْلَمُونَ وَلَا تُؤَاخِذْنِى بِمَا يَقُولُون

Marriage The Fading Art Form!

Like a painter who starts with a blank canvas so starts a marriage. Slowly with simple and careful brush strokes the painter begins to add layers, colours and details. The painter is patient, meticulous and strives to get everything just right. It does get messy at times, but the aspiring artist cleans up, continues their work until one day a beautiful image is revealed.

Marriage is the same. It is not something that happens over night. It starts with a blank canvas and needs to be carefully planned, and worked at! There are times we need to clean up but if we keep that final inspirational image in our mind, the love and tranquility we are after, we will find it. In shaa’Allah, Allah willing.

[30:21] “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.”

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ

Wives in Paradise – Unfair to Women?

One of the biggest challenges we face as Muslims is our ability to get distracted by details.

So many of us do not understand the foundation (the principles) of a matter which is a danger because we get lost and upset about topics that are often clearly understood once the foundation is in place. For example “Wives in Paradise” are one example of many. Men who want wives will get them. For others, what they desire.

Remember, it is difficult to think of paradise because we always try to see it in terms of what we know in this life. We seem to forget that the next life is not going to be like anything we can imagine. We are given descriptions to gives us a small sense of things. Beautiful gardens but not like anything we have seen or can imagine. Beautiful women not like what we have seen or can imagine. Food, experiences, children, it all depends on the individual.

A man asked the Prophet peace be upon him if he could farm in Paradise because that is what he loves… Hadith below:

Narrated Abu Huraira: Once the Prophet (ﷺ) was narrating (a story), while a bedouin was sitting with him. “One of the inhabitants of Paradise will ask Allah to allow him to cultivate the land. Allah will ask him, ‘Are you not living in the pleasures you like?’ He will say, ‘Yes, but I like to cultivate the land.’ ” The Prophet (ﷺ) added, “When the man (will be permitted he) will sow the seeds and the plants will grow up and get ripe, ready for reaping and so on till it will be as huge as mountains within a wink. Allah will then say to him, ‘O son of Adam! Take here you are, gather (the yield); nothing satisfies you.’ ” On that, the bedouin said, “The man must be either from Quraish (i.e. an emigrant) or an Ansari, for they are farmers, whereas we are not farmers.” The Prophet (ﷺ) smiled (at this).

Hadith Reference

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[3:104] “And let there be [arising] from you a nation inviting to [all that is] good, enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong, and those will be the successful.”

وَلْتَكُن مِّنكُمْ أُمَّةٌ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى الْخَيْرِ وَيَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ ۚ وَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْمُفْلِحُونَ

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The Best Teacher, Best Manners, Best Character

A teachers lesson is often worthless when it is presented through an example of poor character. The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him was supreme in character which made him the ideal and most successful teacher. This is why I am inspired and driven to follow his example.

O Allah please keep me on your Messengers path. The Way of your Prophet (ﷺ) peace be upon him. Help me to love him more than I love myself. Help me to strive to learn his ways and to follow them always. Ameen!

Narrated `Abdullah bin `Amr: Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) neither talked in an insulting manner nor did he ever speak evil intentionally. He used to say, “The most beloved to me amongst you is the one who has the best character and manners.” He added, ” Learn the Qur’an from (any of these) four persons. `Abdullah bin Mas`ud, Salim the freed slave of Abu Hudhaifa, Ubai bin Ka`b, and Mu`adh bin Jabal.”

حَدَّثَنَا حَفْصُ بْنُ عُمَرَ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَبَا وَائِلٍ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ مَسْرُوقًا، قَالَ قَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عَمْرٍو إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لَمْ يَكُنْ فَاحِشًا وَلاَ مُتَفَحِّشًا وَقَالَ ‏”‏ إِنَّ مِنْ أَحَبِّكُمْ إِلَىَّ أَحْسَنَكُمْ أَخْلاَقًا ‏”‏‏.‏ وَقَالَ ‏”‏ اسْتَقْرِئُوا الْقُرْآنَ مِنْ أَرْبَعَةٍ مِنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مَسْعُودٍ، وَسَالِمٍ مَوْلَى أَبِي حُذَيْفَةَ، وَأُبَىِّ بْنِ كَعْبٍ، وَمُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ ‏”‏‏.‏

Sahih al-Bukhari 3759, 3760 – In-book reference: Book 62, Hadith 107